At The Mentoring Project, we often receive letters from people who discover us via our founder’s or our president’s books. Each letter is a treasure and we receive it with great respect. We asked Chris if we could share his letter we received this weekend. Chris found out about The Mentoring Project by reading Fatherless Generation: Redeeming the Story by TMProject president John Sowers. This is his letter:
I just read Fatherless Generation from cover to cover in two train rides.
Coming from a home where I didn’t have a father, was really hard on me. My mother did her best, but worked a lot of hours as a corrections officer.
The book really hit home with me. I am now thirty years old, and still find myself unable to hold down a relationship, and a job. I have been in and out college several times as well.
I never had a father figure in my life at all. My mother’s husband would threaten me with violence and called me names.
The book hit me hard because I realized I wasn’t the only one. I have had anger issues my whole life. I would constantly get into fights and explode about anything.
Recently I decided to apply myself and finish college, sign up for my local fire department, and take the time being single to turn my development inward. I have also singed up for a gym and I am in the best shape of my life.
I really appreciate the book and all it has said. Some people feel we are broken as men without dads. Would someone like me be well suited to be a mentor without having kids of my own?
What’s one way some of you have dealt with being fatherless. What about women who run away from you when they find out you are a fatherless man.
I met my father two years ago at 28. It didn’t turn out well and I wound up fathering him and babying his guilt for not being around. So that relationship is once again damaged.
Thank you all for hearing me out!
We’d love to hear from YOU – how would you answer the questions Chris offers?